If for one minute you thought that the cyber world was not reality, consider this your reality check. Evidently it is possible to piss people off in cyberspace. Yes, things even get catty in the world of blogging. Can you believe it?!
Apparently I have angered someone enough with my posts to provoke a de-linking. Yes, folks, de-linking. I’ve been delinked! Boo-hoo, sniffle, sniffle… sob! Let me explain. Picture this. I write a post. You read my post. I piss you off with my post without intending to do so. Instead of just leaving comments defending your opinion or even anonymously justifying actions on my hypothetical character’s behalf, you remove my link from your blog page in protest. End of story. OOOOKay!
There’s something so truly adolescent about such behavior, that it races me back in time to High School. A sincere “thanks” for the trip down memory lane, but no thanks. If I needed to remember my teen years, I’d just walk to the end of my road. My high school is there. I can “run through the halls of my high school” and “scream at the top of my lungs”, hang out with the teachers who I also once taught with and find my old lockers should I choose to. I’d rather not. But now that I have been washed back into the teen world, compliments of a wave of immaturity, let me continue with this completely boring yet blog worthy subject.
I offer my most sincere apologies. I am so sorry that your feelings have been hurt and that you have taken offense to my writing. Sincerely, I am. But the truth is the truth. If you can’t handle that, again, I am sorry. I promise to use kid gloves in the future. For writing and posting things the way they have presented themselves to me, however, I have no regrets. I offer no retractions. That’s my prerogative. On my blog, I’m the author and well, I haven’t posted names to embarrass anyone. If you are secretly embarrassed by your own actions, that is your own personal problem to deal with in the privacy of your own little world or on your own little blog, as you have. I had no idea that you were taking blogging so seriously. There’s more to life than that. Go out and find it, please. Don’t let such pettiness rule it over your life. It would be a damn shame.
Life is one huge joke. Humor is the key to happiness. Maybe you should check out Mrs. Flinger. She’s got it down pat. Poking fun of life and it’s little idiosyncrasies in a blog is a joke as well. It’s humor. Not reality. Even if, at times, it is powerful. If you take all this so seriously, what comes next? How will you make it through real life? I am concerned for you.
So let me share some self-help advice. I have always been taught that truth comes to each of us from God through others in many different ways. Sometimes yelling, sometimes laughing, other times crying, in a whisper or even in silence. Add to that bit of biblical wisdom the maxim that “what goes around comes around.” Together the two are a recipe for authentic maturity. If one discovers some bit of truth about oneself in what another person writes or says, one is wise to take it as it comes, acknowledge one’s failings, learn from it, laugh about it, and move on. Any other approach is sheer ignorance.
Woo - someone’s panties got in a twist huh!?
There is nothing wrong with honest blogging. I do like to mix mercy with truth though so sometimes I don’t blog about stuff that although is honest, will hurt someone. But despite that, there are still folks who can’t be honest with themselves either so… what can you do eh?
Serious twist. I think it’s entertaining though. At least I know that my writing is having some impact on someone!
The balance of mercy and truth is one with which I have struggled for years. I suppose it’s because I was never afforded much mercy when it comes to dealing with my own shortcomings, not in the convent and not now. I guess I just wrongfully expect others to “suck it up” like I have had to or like they have made me themselves.
As far as not blogging honest yet destructive material - you should see the writings I don’t post! Whew! And folks’ lack of being honest with themselves - I think that may just be at the core of my delinking.
OH well. I’d rather be truthful than have one extra link.
Wow! don’t sweat it. Some people have no idea what it means to blog. Don’t they know that opinions create conversation? don’t they know that conversation creates traffic? Isn’t that the point of a blog? For crying out loud. They need to stop blogging if they can’t handle it.
While I realize this is really none of my friggin business you have roused my curious nature. I know you are not mentioning any names, but I wonder, could you share with me the offending blog that you wrote? I am very much wanting to read what exactly you wrote about that birthed such controversy.
Controversy is not always a bad thing btw, sometimes it what real conversations are made of.
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Here’s the post I suspect to be of issue: What Would You Do? But I suppose all of my posts must be offense, or just I am, since my whole link was obliterated! Ha! LOL!
Now, granted I’m not 100% sure,but I think I’m pretty close. For all I know, the person could have become a serious prude overnight and ousted me for my occasional swear word. Understandable, I can be vulgar at times and I catch alot guff for that .
But if it’s not the swearing, then I don’t understand it. The link is not the point. This post is specifically aimed at inviting other people to express their own take on things and even to correct my errant nasty thoughts… hence the title “What Would You Do?” Yes, it’s somewhat sarcastic, but that’s the fun of it. I guess I should just ditch the sarcasm? Booooring!
I am new to whole linking thing… how do you know if someone has delinked you? Does that mean they unsubscribed? Or, had you been on their blogroll and got deleted? Do you know who delinked you?
I think I’d take it very hard if I got delinked- I don’t know what that means, but I’m very sensitive…
I think you’re taking it better than I would. In my blog life it’s a challenge to be honest and yet not alienate people… especially ones I want to have a relationship with in the future! I’ve got one post up that I think I should take down…
Anyway keep up the blog, I’m enjoying it!
Missing from the blogroll. Plus my Wordpress Dashboard lists all my links.
In any case, I’m not bothered by it. Just something to blog about.
Alienating people is not a problem, really. The ones who get it in the first place are not going to run. The ones who do run probably weren’t worth having around to begin with.