Suppose that you had written a truly amusing but nasty blog post regarding an apparent delinking. Once again, like the ass that you are, you assumed the worst in others and began preaching from your soapbox pulpit about honesty, maturity and freedom of speech. You even had the nerve to offer advice about not being petty and the importance of taking correction no matter where it comes from. Hell, you even dragged the Bible into it! Yes, you were a real uppity witch and a self-righteous one at that.
Now suppose the next evening, as you were lying in bed trying to get your three-year-old to stop fidgeting and start sleeping, you began thinking about feeds and all. Don’t ask me why you’d be thinking about how feeds work while you are lying in bed, but you’re new to the blogosphere and you were. Suddenly it occurs to you, like a bat out of hell, like a bolt of lightning, that the apparent delinking was entirely your fault. It had nothing to do with the other blogger, but with your own damn stupidity. Yeah, over the last few days you had changed the way your posts were addressed and well, that’s how you were linked, Dumbass!
Oh crap! Now you have really f&@ked up and you find yourself faced with a moral dilemma. What would you do?
(a) Forget that it ever happened. Leave the post as it is and pretend you know nothing about your post addresses changing. The other blogger probably doesn’t even read your blog, so no harm done. In fact, you got the most comments/discussion you ever had with a non-wordless-Wednesday post.
(b) Erase the post and all related comments right away and pretend that it never was. Maybe the other blogger hasn’t seen it yet, and well, she probably doesn’t even read your blog anyhow. So there, the feathers which have been thrown to the wind have all been gathered up and no one will be the wiser to your nastiness or stupidity. Run to the confessional next Saturday and beg God’s forgiveness for being the ass He created you not to be.
(c) Offer a public apology, a retraction of sorts, so that all of your readers know what an ass you have been and the apparent de-linker will have all the material in the world to gloat over and hate you for forever should she be reading your blog and choose to.
(d) Choose to do letter “c” but make sure you erase your husband’s subscription to the feed before following through on it, otherwise you’ll never hear the end of how you are always assuming the worst in others and similar spousal lectures.
As the author of this blog, I have chosen to go with option “c”.
Ms. Blogger Non-De-linker, you know who you are even though no-one else does. I am sincerely sorry for having gotten “all in your face” so to speak. I really had no business being so presumptuous or judging your intentions, especially since you were in no way involved. Hopefully in your compassion and understanding that we are all snobs, witches and asses at times, you can look beyond my faux pas find it in your heart to forgive me. After all, isn’t that what leads to us thinking the same of others?
Let me offer a shout out to God for providing me with this tiny lesson in humility via humiliation. You Rock, Lord!
Now readers… what would you do? All your tisk, tisks and boos are welcome!
I’d go with “C” also. I tend to think the worst of people and agonize over why they don’t like me. It would be interesting to see if he/she repsonds to you. Keep us posted!
I’d go with c and hope like anything that the other person had done some dumb stuff too so they would feel a bit of forgiveness!
I think we all want people to like us deep down. Well, I know I do. My skin isn’t very thick.
You silly duck!!
well, I am glad you were not delinked for speaking your mind.
If it were me, I would forgive ya!
much luv~d
Lisa.Yes, it would be interesting. But so is this whole drama to begin with, I think.
Penny. Thanks for your comment. Doing dumb stuff is a fact of life. We all have to fess up to it sooner or later.
As far as really caring what people think of me, I had to get over that long ago in the convent. Talk about developing a thick skin. I’m actually working on a few posts about that chaper of my life. I sincerely think I could write a pretty darn interesting novel about it. I’ve been out for over six years now and have wanted to write about it since day one. I’ve finally got the creative juices flowing again with this blog. So who knows!
But, yes, we all want to be liked/loved for who we are. It’s a very natural instinct.
Thank you, KitK. I hope the blogger in question will be as gracious.