Comments on: Clueless.

By: Bahama Mama

Bahama Mama — Wed, 14 May 2008 12:24:37 +0000

I call my sister almost every birthday crying and she always tells me the same thing. It’s my problem not his - I married him and need to accept him for who he is and understand that the fact that just becuase he didn’t do everything I wanted him to do doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me. Obligatory gifts are just not as important to him as they are to me and why should I expect them to be.

All very good points - but I still want a huge expensive surprise for my 40th. He’s got two years to think about it.

By: Tara

Tara — Mon, 12 May 2008 12:27:59 +0000

Oh no! I really hope that “hubby” comment above is not from your hubby. It sounds so mean!

My husband is generally good at remembering (especially birthdays and anniversaries), though he forgot Mother’s Day and never knows what to “do.” I’ve found the best way to get a nice gift is for me to choose it, order it, and pay for it. But that truly is a disappointment since at least half of the sweetness is in his remembering.

If you haven’t read “The Five Love Languages,” you should perhaps pick it up. It’s a good book that will help you relate to your spouse better, and in the way most meaningful to him/her.

By: Lydia

Lydia — Fri, 09 May 2008 15:29:47 +0000

I “trained” my hubby when we were dating when my birthday was. He learned well. He NEVER forgets our anniversary - flowers sent to work so I can brag about him/them! And he does not think he has to get me anything for Mother’s Day because he’s not MY child. When I pointed out that the gift is really from our 2yo (with his wallet and help) then he sort-of got it. Last year I think I got dinner and dessert made for me for Mom’s day…this year I’ll probably get nothing….maybe I’ll get him to cook and clean up again!

By: Don Mills Diva

Don Mills Diva — Fri, 09 May 2008 14:53:26 +0000

Happy belated birthday - I’m celebrating the big 39 soon too! I voted in your poll - I do have to say my hubby is good about remembering stuff like that. I hope yours makes up for it on Sunday!

By: themommykelly

themommykelly — Fri, 09 May 2008 12:26:25 +0000

And there you have it folks… the man’s point of view.

Like I said, F#$kin clueless! Ha!

By: hubby

hubby — Fri, 09 May 2008 04:22:04 +0000

no im not clueless, its just that these things have become overly important to you, and you need to put your ocd into some perspective, i guess thats what i help you with.

and speaking of shortcomings, where should i start?

A chill pill is prescribed medicine for many women out there, your not alone, trust me, i guess its hormones or something…….

By: bits & pieces

bits & pieces — Fri, 09 May 2008 02:59:28 +0000

Happy Birthday!

My hubby is very, very good at remembering these things. He’s sweet, I’m lucky.

I walked past a mommy picking out her own Mother’s Day card tonight and it just about broke my heart! She was telling her kids to give it to their dad in order to give to her. She seemed fine with it, so that’s ok…I guess.

Again, Happy Birthday. I hope you had a GREAT day!

By: conversemomma

conversemomma — Fri, 09 May 2008 02:13:32 +0000

Happy Birthday! My hubs is pretty good. I, hanging my head in shame, have actually forgotten his birthday and not remembered till two days after. Can you say, suck at being a wife.

By: Penny

Penny — Fri, 09 May 2008 00:35:49 +0000

He does have vague ideas when my birthday is and so I get the “When’s your birthday again” at a time near it.

But he’s not a romantic-bring-flowers-home type of guy. And I am okay with that. I doubt he’ll even bother with a Mother’s Day card but then, I’m not his mother. When the kids are older I’ll just be happy with a card from them. That will mean more to me than a toaster, slippers or something.

Mind you… a chocolate praline cake would certainly be welcomed with open arms …er.. mouth.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 08 May 2008 18:30:18 +0000

I need another option to vote. I don’t expect anything and only soemtimes am I disappointed. I have realized that he is not romantic or thoughtful with the birhtday/anniversary gestures. Bur as long as he comes home evey night to me, happy and alive, what else can I ask for?

I don’t think you could have been anymore specific than you were. I will have to remember to e-mail reminders from the cherubs too…

By: AmyBow

AmyBow — Thu, 08 May 2008 17:13:33 +0000

My husband is pretty good at remembering…usually on the day though. This means I get the lame-o cards left over from WalGreens (which has an awful card selection to begin with).

This Mother’s Day it appears that his problem was more technological in nature. He ordered me something online and logged in through my username and password so instead of him getting the shipping comfirmation, it was sent to me. Oh well, at least I am getting something.

By: Donna

Donna — Thu, 08 May 2008 16:01:14 +0000

Men! I had to tell my husband (my daughter is 8 and son 3, so he SHOULD know) that he has to remind the kids about Mother’s Day and how they should treat me (because if I reminded them, that would be nagging)It is HIS job to take them to pick something out for me or even just make a card for me. I make sure I have them do it for him, so why shouldn’t he have them do it for me??

He was a gem on my birthday this year so no complaints there!

By: Ana

Ana — Thu, 08 May 2008 15:44:51 +0000

Can I say my husband is better at remembering these things than I am w/o getting rotten tomatoes thrown at me! hehehehe….

What he’s NOT good at remembering to do is put the seat down!! ARGH I’m tired of that cold, swishy water on my a$$ in the middle of the night!

By: Manager Mom

Manager Mom — Thu, 08 May 2008 14:36:40 +0000

Is the chocolate mousse cake of which you speak from DiMare? Mmmmmmm…..

My husband has gotten much better since the some benevolent god invented the “wish list”.

i simply keep a running list on www.sundancecatalog.com of jewelery that I like, and “accidentally” email it to him every day for a few weeks prior to whatever occasion is looming.

I think the trick is the frequency of the reminders…